Relationship Problems! Top 5 Signs Of Emotionally-abusive Lovers

When we hear the word abuse in relationships, what comes to mind is physical assault and domestic violence.

It is not hard to understand why this happens – physical abuse is the most visible form and it seems to be all around us, in reality and in the news.

But physical abuse is not the only form of abuse and according to Inemesit Udodiong, it is not even the worst.

On the last episode of Love, Sex and Everything else, the presenter says with physical abuse you can “see the signs. You can say, ‘hey, look, I have been abused, I have been violated, I’ve been assaulted.’

But with emotional abuse, your brain is messed up, and half the time you are left wondering maybe you are even the problem [when in truth, you should never feel that way because you’re the one being abused]”

So, what are the signs you’ll see in an emotionally-abusive partner, or one who has such tendencies?

1. They try to isolate you

“There is nothing wrong with a partner trying to have you themselves,” the presenter says.

If, however, that partner freaks out everytime you try to hang out with friends and colleagues, or becomes uncomfortable when you make efforts to stay in close quarters with your family members, then that might be a sign that they will prey on your emotions.

People need other people as support systems, and abusive people know this. So they detach you totally from these people till they are all you have, and that is when the abuse will begin – when you have no one to run to, no option but to stick right there with them.

2. Overly critical

If you are with someone who constantly sees no good in what you do, whom you can’t please or do right by, Inem says that is one of the signs you’ll need in identifying that such person is an emotionally-abusive partner.

“They are constantly criticizing you,” she says. “What that does,” she further says, “is that it messes with your self-esteem and before you know it you are feeling like ‘Ok, maybe there’s something wrong with me’”

3. Too domineering and jealous

One other way of recognizing an emotionally-abusive partner is that they are unnecessarily possessive and try to control everything about you.
Being in a relationship should never totally rid you of your freedom, and should not erode all your sense of self.

There is nothing wrong with a little jealousy, and partners cannot be blamed for feeling a little stressed at the prospect of losing their other halves.
But when jealousy is exhibited in the extreme, it could be a form of emotional abuse.

4. Emotionally unstable

When you see someone who has regular violent outbursts and terrible mood swings, that should serve as the warning you need to stay away from them.

Being with someone who goes swiftly from 0-100 will always leave you in a limbo. You do not know what to expect from them. You do not know what will trigger their outbursts and you’ll be left walking on eggshells half of the time.

This is a form of emotional abuse in the sense that you are never sure of what to feel around such person. That, surely, is not how one is supposed to feel around anyone they are in love with.

5. Always blaming you

Partners who never take responsibility for what they do are in this category too.

By never accepting the blame, they make you feel like they can never do wrong, and with time you start finding a way to blame yourself for every wrong thing that happens even when you are obviously not.

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For Ladies: 6 Ways To Orgasm WITHOUT Having Sex

Our general understanding of orgasm is that it mostly comes during the course of having sex.

Well, new findings have revealed that you can still get the 'big O' without engaging in sexual intercourse.

Sounds strange? Well, YourTango sex experts have compiled six instances where you can actually have orgasms without having intercourse.

1. Coregasm: 

More women (and even a few men) are having 'spontaneous' orgasms at the gym, says Astroglide's Resident Sexologist
Dr. Jess. It's possible that these surprising waves of pleasure are connected with contraction and release of pelvic floor muscles, but we still have lots to learn. Experienced coregasm-ers say that cycling/spinning, abdominal exercises and climbing poles or ropes can bring them to climax and offer an extra incentive to hit the gym.

2. Brain-gasms:

 "These are relatively rare, but I've met two women who learned to think themselves off," says Dr. Jess. One combined fantasy with pelvic floor contractions and the other explained that she could use fantasy to reach orgasm with no physical stimulation whatsoever. Researchers are beginning to study this experience in the lab (using MRI technology), but it is unlikely that most women can themselves how to have a brain-gasm.

3. Sleep-gasms:

 "These are among my favourite type of orgasm, as they require no emotional or physical effort whatsoever!" says Dr. Jess. You cannot control your 'nocturnal emissions', but you may find that you are more likely to enjoy sex dreams that lead to orgasm when you fantasize before falling asleep.

4. Sneezegasms:

 Orgasm is the reflexive release of muscle tension. A sneeze is a micro-expression and is very similar. It is best to focus on similarities between the sensations you experience after a sneeze and the way you feel after orgasm, says sex expert,
Patricia Johnson . However, it may take some practice.

5. Kegelgasms:

 "People often think of working the pubococcygeal muscles as nothing more than an exercise for strengthening the pelvic floor, but doing Kegels in a rhythm that mirrors your typical orgasm can be an excellent way to trigger one," says Johnson. When you are first learning to generate the response, it may be helpful to self-pleasure at the same time. With practice, you're likely to start experiencing intense pleasure hands-free.

6. Thoughtgasms:

 Some people have the capacity to induce orgasm by thinking themselves off, but even in those who do not have this ability, thinking about orgasm activates some of the same brain regions as actually having one, says sex expert, Mark Michaels . This highlights what is possible if you can make a concerted effort to create or reinforce pleasurable associations and more specifically erotic or orgasmic ones.

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See 4 Dangers Of Drinking Cold Water

Hey everyone!

Lets take a look at the harmful or negative effects of Cold water or too much cold water in our system. We all as individuals love cold stuffs especially after a sunny hectic day, we need some cold drinks or water to refresh and cool our body.

This includes even me that’s writing this to you all lol; But we need to know this and how to minimize the rate at which we take in cold drinks regularly..

According to Natural Law, our normal body temperature is about 98.6 degrees F. If we raise that temperature a few degrees, the body starts to show signs of distress, and we say we have a fever.

We try hard to return to homeostasis or normal functioning. Experts have said drinking cold water regularly could have negative impact on the heart and the digestive system. Food and healthy living expert say that cold water is at a temperature that contradicts the overall temperature within the body system.

Even though cold drinks or water has many health benefits, drinking ice water or cold water can only give temporary relief and drinking ice water regularly has its downside.

Here are some reasons why you shouldn’t drink ice or cold water:

1. Shortage Of nutrients:

The body’s temperature is 37o C and when you drink something at a very low temperature, your body has to spend energy to regulate its temperature. This spent energy is otherwise used to digest food and absorb nutrients, thereby leaving your body short of nutrition.

2. Decreases your heart rate:

Drinking ice water or cold water decreases your heart rate. Studies have shown that drinking ice water stimulates the vagus nerve. The vagus nerve is the 10th cranial nerve and is an important part of the body’s autonomous nervous system that controls involuntary actions of the body.

The vagus nerve mediates the lowering of the heart rate and the low temperatures of ice cold water act as a stimulus to the nerve which causes the heart rate to drop.

In conclusion, take water at a normal temperature, the brain is sensitive to temperature change which is why it freezes when one drinks cold water at first, adding that such continuous seizure is not good for it, more so That is why we advise people not to take drugs with cold water.

The drugs will not digest on time; it means you won’t get the best of the drugs because the water did not dissolve on time. Thank You for reading, Kindly drop your thoughts below

3. Slows Down Digestion:

Drinking ice water or cold water hampers the process of digesting food as it causes your blood vessels to shrink. This can slow down the process of digestion and as the food is not digested properly, the nutrients are lost or not absorbed by the body.

4. May Lead To sore throat:

Drinking cold water can cause the buildup of respiratory mucosa, which is a protective layer of the respiratory tract. When this layer gets congested, the respiratory tract is exposed and becomes vulnerable to various infections and hence the chances of your throat turning sore are high.

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For Guys, 5 Reasons Why Women Are Constantly Rejecting You (Most Are Guilty Of No.5)

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So you worked up the courage to approach an attractive woman and start a conversation. But as soon as you opened your mouth, she found a reason to get away from you.

There might be a specific reason why she rejected you. The simple point is that most guys cause rejection by what they’re doing. Here are five common reasons why women are rejecting you.

1. You have bad breath

Although the right words may be coming out of your mouth, bad breath may be what’s turning the ladies off.
Bad breath is one of the biggest turnoffs you can display to the opposite s*x. If you have foul breath no matter how rich you are or drive a fancy sports car, women will avoid you at all times.

2. You’re overly aggressive

Women don’t like it when a man they have just met insists on touching her too often. There is no need to touch a woman if you just met her. Women mostly prefer cool, calm, gentle and well-mannered men.
When you are too aggressive with a woman, you creep her out, get pushed away and you get rejected.

3. You’re using the wrong approach

Most men approach women in the wrong fashion. Most women are really tired of hearing played out, cheesy pick-up lines.
Also, being an arrogant man who is always talking about himself and knows it all is sure to make the ladies run far, far away. Women like confident and not cocky.

4. You’re being too needy

Women are not attracted to the type of man who needs too much support, validation, and constant reinforcement from women.
If you come across as the kind of guy that is going to have to be with her 24/7 and you do not have a life or interests of your own, you are probably going to face rejection from a woman.

5. You’re using the wrong body language

Your body language has a huge effect on attraction, and if you start talking to a woman and your posture is slumped and your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.
Keep in mind that a man’s appearance actually means a lot to a woman when she first meets him.

If you are dressed sloppy or you have your pants pulled up to your chest with your shirt tucked into them, a woman may not want to be seen with you.

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Ladies! Doing Any Of These Things Will Not Make Any Man Respect You

It is no news that we are in an era where women are no longer respected because of the way they throw themselves at men.

There are so many bad eggs in the society, this has made most of the men think women are the same and can be treated as one.

We do not need to sing or chant the praises of women before you know how important they are in the society. The roles they play can never be over-emphasized irrespective of the things they do.

It is disheartening to know that many men have little or no regard for the women in their lives due to their past experiences. Some women in truth do not know how to comport themselves in a gathering.

They end up doing silly things that will make the world abuse the gender and what they stand for. No matter how much people rant for change, women will continue to be abused until they stand up and prove themselves as dignified entities.

You do not fight for respect after all, you earn it! If you want to be treated differently from the girls flocking the streets, then you have to act differently. Add a twist to your life and personality and those who meet you will respect you.
If you do any of the things below as a woman, no man will respect you:

1. You are a puppet

If you do not have a mind of your own as a woman, no man will respect you. No one is asking you to be stubborn and defiant when being talked to; however, there are ways you can express your opinion without stepping on toes.

Men appreciate women who have minds of their own and can take decisions without being pushed around.

2. When you do not have a life of your own

There are so many women in the society who live based on people’s instructions. They have no life plans and cannot tell which direction to turn.
Unfortunately, many of these women are being led astray as they succumb to peer pressure most times. Men have little or no regard for women who do not have life plans and goals. They see them as chaff that could be blown away.

3. When you are a drunk

Honestly, that is the height of being irresponsible. How can you expect a man to respect you when the other ladies around cannot praise you for your actions? No man will speak highly of a woman who is a drunk.

There is simply no way you can be respected when you cannot caution yourself when you drink. You know what you have to do if you are found wanting in this situation.

4. When you are loose

Men will always be men; if you think you are dancing to their tunes by doing the things you do, you may end up being a joker.

As much as a man will want to get down with you on a first date, you have to be self-disciplined. If you jump into his bed without hesitation, you have failed the first test of chastity.

5. When you have lots of tales about your ex

Some things are worth burying in the past. Even though transparency is a key element in relationships, you have to cut out certain things.
No man will respect if you keep replaying the soiled parts of the failed affair.

How exactly do you want him to accord you any respect when he has known all there is to know about you? Add a little mystery to your life.

6. When you pretend

No one can do you like you! There is dignity in being real. You do not have to pretend to be someone you are not because you want some guy to like you.

Men will appreciate you more when they know how principled you are. Do not be afraid to show them your imperfections, we are all flawed after all.

7. When you are not ladylike

There are no two ways to put this, if you actions cannot reflect the lady in you, you are as good as lost. Men love and respect women who are represent the gender in every way. They admire them the more when they record successes in their chosen fields. They want to see the lady in you irrespective of how independent you have become.

8. When you are a liar and a flirt

No one respects a liar and a flirt, there is no way you can make a man respect you if you do any of these two things.
You cannot be seen frolicking with men and expect that you will be praised by them.

Even when you have lots of guys as friends, you should be able to draw a limit. Be known for whom you are, avoid lying as this can paint you the wrong way.

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For Guys- 4 Signs To Know A lady Is In Love But Just Want to Play Hard To Get

In todays world it happens Sometimes a lady may be crushing heavily on you but will not want to come across as cheap. These are certain signs to expose her.

So you found a girl who really gets your attention. But one thing that you notice is that she seems kind of out of it, like she doesn’t really want your attention. Or does she? Let’s face it: Attractive women get a lot of attention and are approached all the time by men.

They are often far too subtle and indirect — or just plain confusing — when revealing their romantic interest; therefore, they need quick, easy ways to figure out if you’re either a self-confident guy who can see through their games or just another wuss that easily gives up at the first sign of resistance.

For a woman, playing hard to get is a game that is meant to drive men crazy yet keep them coming back for more. The trouble comes when guys don’t know if a woman is playing hard to get or is just genuinely not interested in interacting with them. So with that in mind, here are 4 signs she’s playing hard to get.

1. She tests you to see how long you’ll chase her

You’ve gotten her number, but when you dial her digits, all you get is her answering machine. A couple of days pass, you call her again and she happens to answer the phone, apologizing for not having called you earlier because she was busy. She always has a full schedule (or pretends that she does). So what’s the real reason why didn’t she call you when she had the chance? It may be because she wants to be pursued, but doesn’t want to look too available.

If you call a woman to set up a date with her, she may tell you that she is busy that particular night, to call her next week when her schedule is not as hectic. Doing this shows she’s interested in going out with you, but containing her eagerness. She may even agree to go out with you on a certain night and then at the last minute, calls and cancels to reschedule. Although this is a risky move on her part, she may be checking to see how you will take the bad news and if you are still really interested in going out with her.

2. She flirts like crazy, then stops

A woman who is playing hard to get will seemingly want to know everything about you i.e., quiz you about your family, your background, and your tastes in things like food, music and movies, then abruptly change the subject by moving the conversation elsewhere. More than likely, what she’s doing is trying to catalog your interests so that she can slowly bond with you when she’s ready.

3. She talks about other guys you don’t know

Another sign a woman is playing hard to get is when she brings up co-workers from work or male friends and makes light conversations on how cute or funny they are in order to ignite a little jealously and make you work harder for her attention.

4. She teases you, then pulls away

If she smiles when you check her out, plays with her hair, leans toward you while talking and briefly stares into your eyes with passion to build up tension, then suddenly breaks away when you move in for the kiss or some neck action, she may well be playing hard to get and trying to see how hard you’ll really work for her affection.

Playing hard to get is part of the dating game, not to mention the part that makes it fun; however, if she has your number, but is busy all the time and continuously makes no attempt to keep the window of possibility open with you, she’s not playing hard to get–she’s just not interested in you.

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Wellness Tips!!! 5 Colours Of Urine & What They Say About Your Health

The colour of your urine can indicate one’s health state and point to what goes on inside the body. It’s important to take note of how your urine looks like (note the colour) as well as the sensation when passing it.

The colour of urine can tell if some organs aren’t functioning well, if there’s a deficiency (an indication to improve diet/ load on vitamins) and the general state of being.

For instance if there’s blood in the urine this may point to problems with the kidney, urinary tract, urethra or bladder.

Check out what these colours of urine mean the next time you visit the bathroom:

1. Clear

A clear urine is usually a sign that enough water is consumed/the body is greatly hydrated. The clearer the urine means enough water is consumed! And staying hydrated never harm anyone.

2. Dark Yellow

Dark yellow is a sign indicating the need to increase fluids, it’s the major reason people are advised to take more water when the urine is dark yellow in colour.

3. Brown

Brown coloured urine is an indication that one is dehydrated in simple cases but in some cases, it might be an indication of liver problem where immediate treatment should be sought.

4. Orange

An orange coloured urine is usually an indication of very low water intake when it’s not food colouring and in some cases it might signify a liver condition

5. Red

When the urine is red then there’s a cause for alarm though in some cases it may be due to certain food or colouring taken in, it could also be anything around kidney, bladder or prostrate cancer and should be checked immediately.

Red urine usually signify a mix with blood which is something NEVER to ignore.

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Guys Listen, This Is What Women Really Look For In A Man.

It is not all about six-packs or being very endowed, here are very important qualities real women want in a man.

What do women really want? It’s an age old question and most guys are keen to know what qualities ladies want in a potential lover.

But the great news is you can forget spending hours in the gym honing your six-pack or fretting about schlong size.
New research has revealed the top five qualities that attract women the most – and you may be surprised by the results. The team at Superdrug Online Doctor surveyed 1,712 people from the UK and the US to find out what really matters when it comes to romance.

And it turns out there are more important things than a pretty face, because the thing that turns her on the most is your sparkling personality.
Coming in a close second was good looks followed by a guy’s education, profession and finally his income.

In an exclusive interview with Daily Star Online, a Superdrug spokesperson said: “Being able to carry a conversation, sharing common interests and having personality can be the difference between an awkward, uncomfortable dinner date and really hitting it off.

“Overwhelmingly ‘personality’ came back as the number one asset vetted before changing a relationship status.
“The second-leading dating factor was ‘looks’ likely because the first things we notice about a person is his or her appearance: height, style and attractiveness.

“These two elements ranked far above the other three options (education, profession, and income).
“While still relevant, they didn’t seem to matter nearly as much as other surface-level traits.”

Most important qualities in a partner: 

1. Personality
2. Looks
3. Education
4. Profession
5. Income

From your Own Point of View, What do you think Women Really look in a Man?
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Let me Add No. 6 – Good S*x or Big D*ck!!!

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8 Things You MUST Know About Dating A Girl In Her Late 20s (Number 3 Is So True)

If you’re falling for a girl in her late 20s, here are a few things you should know.

1. She doesn’t need you.

She’s used to doing it all herself. She’s got a trick for opening jars that are stuck, a step stool for changing that ceiling light, and she’s gotten pretty damn good at putting together furniture that comes in 1,000 pieces from Ikea. She’s used to not asking for help, so she won’t.
If you want to lend her a hand, don’t ask her. Just reach up and change that light bulb when you see her coming through with the step stool.

2. She lives a full life.

She’s got friendships that date back over a decade, a job that’s well past entry level, and hobbies that she’s been at for years. It’s not that she doesn’t want to see you; it’s just that she’s not about to break her Thursday happy hour traditions just because you showed up and fell in love with her.

3. She doesn’t want games.

She just doesn’t have the time. You’ll know how she’s feeling because she’ll tell you, like a grown up. And she’ll expect you to do the same.

4. She knows what she wants.

If she’s in love with you too, you’ll know, because she’ll be consistent. She’ll text you back in a reasonable amount of time and won’t be wishy-washy about making plans.

5. Her wild party days are behind her.

Not to say that she won’t turn up on a Saturday night, but she’s over the FOMO and will choose to spend the night in when she needs it.

6. She will drag you to a LOT of weddings.

Her friends are all getting married and she’s going to be thrilled to have a dependable plus one to bring along with her for the celebration. Hope you don’t have any plans this spring.

7. She’ll occasionally talk about an ex, and that shouldn’t freak you out.

If you’re dating a girl in her late 20s, chances are she’s been through a few serious relationships. So rather than tell you about the time she backpacked through Europe and leave you to ask, “Who’d you go with?” she’s just going to straight up tell you. Not because she wants to set up expectations or draw comparisons, but because she has big life experiences that she wants to tell you about.

8. It’s not going to be easy.

In her early 20s, she’d fall in love easily and put everything she had into it. But there’s a quota on how many times you can love like that before you start to guard your heart, and by her late 20’s she’s likely hit that mark. You’ll have to prove to her that you’re interested in her for the long term, not just something for right now.
If you love a girl in her late 20s, she’ll be the real deal. You’ll be dating a grown a*s woman who won’t keep you guessing, but will still manage to surprise you the more you fall for her.

We’re trying hard to create better relationships in the world. But we can’t do it without YOU! Did this feature help you better yourself or your relationship? You can change someone else’s life too.

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My Girlfriend Is Very Beautiful And Intelligent, But She Still Urinates On The Bed – Man Shocks Nigerians

A young man has told a really shocking tale of his girlfriend’s obnoxious and weird habit on the bed.

The man shared his story on an Instagram relationship page, Break_or_Makeup, where he told stunned readers about his girlfriend’s sad habit.
According to him, his girlfriend still wets the bed as old as she is.
He revealed that although she is beautiful and also intelligent, she can’t let go of the habit.

Below is how he told the story:- 

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“Falling In Love Is Easy, Keeping It Is The Real Task” -Nse Ikpe Gushes Over Husband

Nollywood actress, Nse Ikpe Etim who got married in 2013 to her very first boyfriend, Clifford Sule after they met again years later took to Instagram to display her fondness for him.

She wrote:

“Falling in love is the easiest part but keeping it is truly the task… #mancrusheveryday #keepthemclose #loveyou #thursdate #pilates #missingyou meanwhile if he ever knows I put this out he will kill me! Hahaha”Hahaha” 

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Watermelon As An Alternative To (VIAGRA) For Treatment Of Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

First What is Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to attain or maintain an erection firm enough to involve in a sexual intercourse.  It is also referred as ‘impotence’. 

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One Simple Trick for Dealing with Stubborn Spots and Scars

Put your lemon juice and baking soda down and pay attention. This little trick has been co-signed worldwide by certified dermatologists, and will turn your skin clear, glowing and baby fresh, by effectively fading stubborn spots, blemishes and other darkened skin due to sunburn and scars!

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Must Read!! Five Life Lessons You Will Learn The Hard Way (No 2 Is So On Point)

Life is not easy when you are pursuing something worthwhile and ready to learn from the best experiences. 

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10 Things Girls Do Everyday That Guys Secretly Hate, You’ll All AGREE With No. 6

I doubt that there’s any guy in the world that loves an indecisive girl but most girls are unknowingly indecisive. For example you guys could be on a date and he’d ask you if you want meat pie or jollof and you’d respond anyone “i’m indifferent”,

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GUYS!! If Your Girlfriend Does Any Of These 7 Things, Please Never Let Her Go

So guys, listen up. This is Important for You – Thank us later!!
Because if your girl does any of these seven things, she is, as it is commonly referred to in the bachelor’s community, “Wifey Material ”.

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